You_dont_understand_me

"You never listen" puts people on the defensive.

Start the conversation by saying: "I don’t need a solution right now; I just need you to hear how I’m feeling so I don’t feel alone in this."

If you’ve tried to be clear and the "You don't understand me" feeling persists, the issue might be on their end: you_dont_understand_me

Before fixing the problem, it helps to understand why the "signal" gets lost between the sender and the receiver:

Expecting someone to "just know" what you need is a setup for disappointment. Even the people who love you most cannot read your mind. 3. How to Make Yourself Understood "You never listen" puts people on the defensive

People often listen through the lens of their own experiences. They aren't hearing your story; they are hearing their version of it.

The irony of being understood by others is that it often requires us to understand ourselves first. If you are a mystery to yourself, you will always be a mystery to others. The irony of being understood by others is

"I feel [Emotion] when [Action] because [Impact on Me]." It’s hard to argue with someone’s internal reality.